Hi everyone... just a quick update while my friends are out taking kids to an outing... Yesterday and today have been absolutley amazing. When we got here yesterday my friend who hasn't seen me, other than pictures, in almost 2 full years, called me "SKINNY" imagine that... 192 lbs, and someone calls me skinny??? (WTF is wrong with that picture? eh!) I just smiled at her and said "No, not skinny yet but going to be someday!" Remember that she has no clue that I have had lapband surgery. AND Add to the fact, that I don't think she has ever had a weight problem, or weighed over 145 in her entire life! Even at her most pregnant stage I think she MAY have weighed 140??? She makes me sick to think that at age 45 she can weigh 110 and tell me that she has put on weight! UGH!
DH and I had a discussion last night before going to bed and I MAY tell her about my journey before the weekend is over. Not sure yet. I love her and don't like that I am keeping this a secret from her. If she and I get a private girls moment tomorrow on the beach, I might, she may very well support me more than I think she might. We've supported each other in EVERYTHING we have ever done since college when we met... I just don't think I am totally ready to divulge my secret and find out yet. I almost did this morning but went and took a shower instead. Right now, this weekend, is primarily about her son graduating from high school on June 5 and then leaving for the Army on June 16th. It will be a very definite change in this household. Then the other son, graduates next year and doesn't have a clue what he wants to do after that. DH said to me in our conversation last night... "You 2 are as close as 2 women can get, when the time is right you will talk. If you're nit ready then don't say anything. Yoiu will know when the time is right for you to tell her." And ya know he is right... I want to tell her but am not really ready to answer all the questions I KNOW she will have. I will know when I am, and then I will tell her.
I need to focus on NOT gaining any weight while here... and the way all of THEM like to eat out, I may have a harder time than I expect to if I don't tell my story. Any advice anyone can give, would be so greatly appreciated!!! Ocean + Beach + Seafood (my favorite) + LOT'S of "All you can eat BUFFETS"... = a huge potential sabotage for my eating small meals... I will survive this and then I will prove, to myself mainly, that I can do it! More later...
Have a super happy Memorial Day (my driving home day) if I don't get on here again before then...
Piccalilli
1 year ago
3 comments:
Great NSV! I agree with your husband...when you're ready, you'll know. I have no advice on eating on vacation as I've always gained weight. Good luck and have fun!
Well, It's really hard keeping a secret from a close friend but you will know if and when to tell her. It is a personal thing and no one seems to understand that it is not an easy way out of Obesity or a magic wand... It takes alot of hard work. As for the eating thing... Everyone always runs around alot while on vacation so extra eating and extra exercise go hand in hand... i love to cruise and as much as we eat on cruises, I lost weight every time. It reves up your metabolism. Even if you don't tell her, you can make healthy choices, she'll just think you're sticking to your diet. You could go for a walk and tell her, that way you'lll have your alone time and get some exercise as a bonus. Enjoy! *Maria*
The only reservation I would have about telling such a close friend would be that you may feel it puts you under pressure to perform as people can tend to have unrealistic expectations from the band.
Perhaps wait until you are a little further along on your journey. You may not feel pressure from telling this friend, especially as you don't see each other very often. It's just something to consider. As your husband says, you'll know when you feel right about it. Have a brilliant visit. xx
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